Hello Debbie ,
How are you doing today Hope you are fine? nice to have met you Badoo : ). I didn't expect such a response, but I appreciate the fact you took the time to reply me . I am ready to open up again and I have been seeking a serious relationship for almost 6 years years now..I have devoted most of my time raising my Daughter .... I have a good personality and I have big heart. I am a very nurturing person and I take care of people very well who are in my life. I believe that is my calling......always...to take care people, but now it's time for someone to take care of me. I'm definitely looking for someone who is smart, funny, can take a joke (because I can be sarcastic at times)... I do believe every relationship starts out with friendship, but in my case, we end up staying friends but I'm not looking for my "princess charming" out there on the dance floor in the bar . I love to dance and that's what I do. I don't like the term "single Father because technically I am not alone. I prefer to be called a father who is single because I don't have a partner. I've always been a strong-willed person and hard worker.... My job is perfect. I work for myself and since am self employed , I schedule my work. I never work weekends, unless there is an event and I have all major holidays off too, not including my vacation or flex time.....Lol
My schedule can also be fixed during the week. My first priority is my Daughter , who is 19 years old. I am her parent, her advocate, her teacher, and her guardian and protector, most of all her Daddy ...So, I guess you want to know more about what I want in a companion. I enjoy sports tremendously. This is the best time of year because I LOVE FOOTBALL! I'm a huge Manchester United fan.... I like lawn tennis too, but I'm also into the more "violent" sports like wrestling and boxing........See, I told you I could be be a bit sarcastic. I like bowling and I can play pool too! Golfing, not so much my thing, but if you're happy, enjoy it and I'll support you. I like the outdoors too. We do the camping thing, go to the beach. We have seafood, so we LOVE the river. But I also like my alone time and just staying at home at relaxing. Well, I do have lots of questions: How about , what are you looking for in a relationship?,What are 3 of your all time favorite movies?, What kind of music do you like?Now, what kind of questions do have for me ?I would be happy answer any questions you have for me!
Just a few things.....I'd like to know why did you get back to me when i im you... Well, I better go . I hope you still find me interesting and will write back. I'm going to apologize to you in advance if I don't get back to you right away.....I will check my messages on my phone, but I don't usually respond to anything until when am on the computer . Have a great day,and I am looking forward to hearing from you again.........
I don't know when to begin. I am at a total lose of words. My head is spinning in a million different directions. I don't know whether to laugh or cry, be sad or excited. My hands are shaking right now to a point that I find it difficult to type. I went through our conversation and how we met, while doing so I have cried, laughed, gasped with excitement and just been in shock at the words that you said. I am almost afraid to write anything because when I do it is going to be so similar to what you typed you will think you actually did type it. I think you have the most beautiful mind that can type these words so beautifully. If I didn't know better I would think you were my best friend playing a nasty trick on me! LOL
We have so much in common that it is truly spooky. I had chills when I hear from you. The things that you said are things I have prayed for in a woman and in a partner. I have cried so many times when reading a book. They have worn pages from the tears I have shed. I have been in stores before and have watched elderly couples holding hands and have cried wanting so badly to have a love like that. Seeing unconditional love right in front of you is such a beautiful thing. It is such a blessing to have that in your life.
I have only been married once...for 18 years ago....She died 6 years ago and I have been widowed for 6 years....1) I take my marriage vows very seriously and 2) I could not provide for my Daughter like I could staying married to her....and that meant more to me....so I pretty much sacrificed myself to keep the family together and to allow my kid some of the finer things....i.e., education. If I had to do over again, I would have left...but hind sight is always better. So..because of my past relationship....I do have a lot of love pent up wanting to burst out. I am not sure mine pent-up love wants to come out gently or just bust out...LOL!!!
what are you looking for in a relationship?
I am looking for my best friend, passionate lover and life partner in a relationship. As I had mentioned before there has to be mutual trust, honesty, respect, sense of humor, unconditional love, tolerance, accepting the other just the way they are, not wanting to change the other person, not wanting to control the other, just being equal to each other..supporting i.e stands up for me, basically just treats me the ways I treat her. 8-)
What are 3 of your all time favorite movies?
# "Nobility is not a birthright. It is defined by one's actions." - Kevin Costner, Robin Hood Prince of Thieves
# "Oh no! You did not shoot that green s*** at me!" - Will Smith, Independence Day
# "Do you know how to use that thing?" "Yeah. The pointy end goes into the other man." - Anthony Perkins/Antonio Band eras, The Mask of Zorro
What kind of music do you like?
# "You better get a bigger gun I'm not dead yet!" - Tommy Shaw (Styx), I'm Not Dead Yet
# "You feeling' sorry for yourself don't affect my mental health no more." - Sass Jordan, Sun's Gonna Rise
# "You bleed just to know you're alive." - GooGoo Dolls, Iris
Let's see.... I'm always working from home, and seeking Contracts ....I love my job....I am not a "high-maintenance" man....I do not require a lot of "frills" for happiness....I believe happiness comes from within...that material objects do not make a person happy. I also believe that you have to love yourself before you can love another. I am probably the most honest, sincere, caring, loving, trustworthy person you will ever meet. I was raised in a wonderful loving home... I am a "small-town" and an "old-fashioned" Guy who believes "morals" are still important...."respect your elders".....and family comes first. I believe that when you are in a relationship....if you put the other person first, and they put you first, then everyone wins....to be totally unselfish....not to try and change a person but to embrace their differences and love them. I am looking for someone who: (a) has the same values as I do (b) will walk beside me...not in front or behind
me (c) treat me well (d) communicate from the soul (e) will love unconditionally (f) will love all of me and not try and
change me (g) and everything you put in your e-mail, etc.
Am in the process of selling 1/1 Bath , 2-Car Garage with Pool and Large Yard along my area, . I'm not very excited about selling the House.I would give the keys probably to my agent when i get to the states.I wanna let you know that I've work hard for my money and work hard to keep my independence but the price is time. so it's a kind of glorified flextime.I spend a third of my life working, a third of my time dreaming...guess what the other third . I like the nicer things in life. I'm good looking and just looking for someone special to share my life with. I would like to travel to meet you soon. I'm very romantic and passionate.
Now your turn...I also try to be as honest as I can to everyone. Giving my word to do something means something to me and I try my hardest to keep my word. I will not agree to something if I know I can't keep that promise even to myself. I like wise will return to a store if I've forgotten to pay for something and will also give money back if the change is too much... I'm in a stage of my life that I don't need all the glitz or glory, just REAL LOVE, honesty, respect, drama free, ambition, and good family values. I feel as though I am writing a book, it just seems like there is so much to say, and that we are like minded in so many ways. We are looking for the same type of person we have the same ideals. I need someone to protect me, love me, respect me, encourage me, and so many more things. I guess when it comes to love I want it all. In that respect I guess I am selfish....lol... I am a very giving person, I believe in give and it shall be given.
That is what I like about my job I get to give to those who are in need ...Well I hope to hear from you soon unless this 20 page email has scared you away ....LOL
I hope that gives you a little more insight into who I am. Talk to you later
How are you doing...I assume u are doing great..you were on my mind throughout the day as well...let me start by answering your questions...what I meaant by helping those who are in needs is simply donating either money or gift items to the orphanages...I do that every year because I knida like helping people..And my job doesn't require me to leave the country often...just one in a year or once in every two years..I traveled to London because of my job..but NY was just for traveling....then we talk about football..I'm simply referring to soccer..not a game that's really liked in the states,but its the number one sport in the world...its been played on the pitch... My daughter schools in the UK and she's studying pharmacy....I guess she waas influenced by her late mom because that's she studied too....the difference is just what they are major in....And about the house I'm selling...not that I have any problem,but I just need a more suitable place in terms of environment...and I haven't even think of where I'm moving to yet...probably with you in Colorado...lol..Sassy Jordan is into Ballad and a little bit of R&B....I want you to know that I'm not thinking and will never think less of you because you cam with me..I just appreciate it and I find you so sweet because u did that to make me happy....
Then reading your reply, I actually had to print it out just to make sure that I was reading it correctly. I think that I have re-read your email at least 5 times, trying to figure out if I need to pinch myself or not, because surely this cannot be my luck that a perfectly responsible and caring woman may have just found her way into my life. Now, for a little more about me. I am a hopeless romantic, I fall in love with sunsets, oceans, I can cry when looking at a beautiful painting or reading a good book. Beauty to me is more than what is on the surface, it is the ideas, thoughts, dreams and realities of what lies behind and in the heart of whatever it may be....My partner will love me unconditionally as I will to them and be accountable to each other for better for worse. I want a partner who even when we are in a crowd that makes me feel as if it were just the two of us. I hope for a partner where trust isn't an issue. I hope for a partner when she kisses me when we're old and gray that I still get butterflies. Life is really what you make of each experience and I agree that you can enjoy anything if the company is right. So know that I have gotten my future partner requirements out of the way, I'll tell you a little more about me. I love to bake (cookies, cakes, etc.), read and work on craft. I am addicted to reality TV that looks to help people find love.I love being with children. I like to cook, but don't because I don't have anyone to share it with right now. I don't really like onions!!!. I also dislike fake people. Those people who say that they are your friend, but when you really need them they are no where to be found. I dislike spiders immensely. They just creep me out. I don't like scary movies anymore either.
I just don't see the point. I do like to spend time at home playing games, watching movies or just enjoying the company. My parents were married for so long up until my Mother passed away...My maternal grandmother passed away shortly after Christmas in 1995 while My Mom passed away in December 1997 and I miss them everyday in which my Late mom was diagnosed with lung cancer ...Then my father was diagnosed with a melanoma cancer spot on his leg that had to be removed 2 month after I lost my late Mom , which was pretty severe. my ex was not supportive at all. I just felt like an utter failure...my ex did not come to the hospital to check on my Family and she was at home....watching TV and sleeping. To make a long story short ..she didn't take care of me at all.. From that time on...she wanted nothing to do with me before she died 6yrs ago ...These were all things out of my control, but I still felt like I should have been able to do more, But I need to have someone who does care about what happened in my day, no matter if you understand it or not or even if it is the same thing day in and day out. Someone who cares when I cry over an episode of Grey's Anatomy, because it reminds me of the struggle that my grandmother went through with her Alzheimer's. So I also want to be able to open up about anything and everything. I have been told that I am too devoted at times.Speaking of family and little more about me .. .. I have brown eyes (I think they are my best feature). I was born in Philippines , In Manila but moved to Usa when i was 5 yrs old ..Well I'm a California guy ....I love USA, the weather is great all year round. I live in a city where I can drive to play in the snow ('bout 2 hrs) and then drive to swim in the ocean (about 1 hr) all in the same day, which I've done before.. I'm a Dual Citizen American .. My Mom was from Cali while My dad is from Philippines,they met on a Boat ride in New york, USA very Long Ago .. I'm about 6.1 " I was born and Raised in Philippines ,Manila .I am th only child of my parents. We grew up in Cali,....For fun...... I enjoy hanging out with friends, whether that is at home or going out (dinner, movies, etc). I love to go dancing. I love to travel.... I enjoy cooking, especially for company and those special in my life. With my busy schedule, I don't always get to do it as much as I would like to. I have been trying lots of new things since the lost of my wife. I started going target shooting with a friend a little over a year ago. I really never thought that I would enjoy shooting a gun.... I guess you never know until you try. I will try most anything one time.....I believe in honesty, I am not good at keeping secrets of my own but I a great confidant. I know my friends would say I am there for them and would do anything for them as I know they would for me. I have tried to raise my kid that way as well.I think I have rambled on for far too long, if you made it this far - WOW !
Dear. i would be back to state too soon but would prefer talking to you and I'm glad for telling me more about you ... Where do you see yourself in five years? In ten? Do you like summer or winter better? The beach or the snowy mountains?I will quit now so there will be more to talk about later. Thanks again for getting back to me, have a wonderful Day and sleep tight....
Let mme start by answering some of the few questions you've asked me...I will be the one to be killing the spiders,because i always do my best in protecting my woman..so i will be glad in doing that for you..and about where my home is...of course its in Texas...what made me chat with you was that when i saw your pics,i pictured your heart,and from ur heart,i saw a world which i know i would be part of...i have never regret chatting with you and i hope it stays that way and vice vresa....
I feel the same way...I anticipate your emails, Your thought is on my mind all day. It feels a little silly sometimes, I mean I haven't even met you and I have this connection I can't explain. I so look forward to meeting you when i get home cos i call over there My Future Home...Dear , How are you doing today ?
I so Much happy that I had the chance to read your email here and just want you to know that i will email back cos i want to carry the conversation to high level and know each other Much better.. I believe in communication , commitment plus chemistry ...I would also like to find my soul mate, where you just have a mutual understanding just looking into each others eyes...yes I am a big romantic Man too, sometimes I think I have too many emotions and feelings. But I am also realistic and down to earth.
I am typically an optimistic person, trying to see the good in all situations. But I have a realist streak in me too. I tend to analyze things before I make a move-in all aspects of my life. The lost of my Wife left me hurt and scared. I think that is why I haven't really tried to meet anyone . I wanted to be whole again. Happy with me and who I am and I wanted to take a hard look at everything I have done in my life and be okay with it. I feel that every person involved in a bad situation contributed in someway-directly or indirectly. ....So here I am, single. I'm okay with it but so bored sometimes . I like me, I like the strong independent man I have become. I have found peace in myself with the downfall of my relationship and I have moved on. I am glad I took time to heal. I believe in living my life as an example to my children and to others. I am not perfect and I don't want anyone to think I am. I just do my best to live my life the best I can. Don't be foolish. Marriage/relationships aren't ever easy. You have two imperfect people trying to live up to unrealistic roles. Like with everything it takes work. I'm committed to that work and I hope that the person whom I make that commitment to will also value that.
I am a pretty positive person as well. Generally my days go good. I may have my moments, but I try to just move through them with a good attitude. I don't like to allow the little things in life to steal my joy. I pray a lot! Well, I guess that the best way I can describe what sort of relationship you seek for? I am wanting someone to hold my hand through the rest of my journey of life. I want someone to share things with, laugh with, cry with and snuggle with when I am watching TV or just need a hug. I am a big lover and I give a lot. So I would like someone who does not take advantage of that and who also treats me with a lot of love. I believe in the Bible, and I believe that if God is in the center of a relationship, then it will succeed. I also believe that there is no such thing as a 50/50 relationship. We all have times when we may need to give 80% or take 80%. I do think that communication is extremely important as well. I also know that no
relationship is perfect and takes commitment and work from all parties involved.... Just want to ask you some question so we could make the communication so Lively ....
What were you like when you were a kid?
If you had a billion dollars, what would you do with it?
What would your dream house be like?
If you could change something about yourself, what would it be & why?
Describe your fighting style: drunken master or angry monkey?
What last made you laugh?
Spontaneity or stability? ...
Which do you prefer giving or receiving?
What is your favorite word?
What is your least favorite word?
What turns you on creatively, spiritually or emotionally?
What turns you off?
What is your favorite curse word?
What sound or noise do you love?
If Heaven exists, what would you like to hear God say when you arrive at the Pearly Gates?
Do you like to read? If so...favorite book(s)?
How often do you really "go out"?
Hope i make your Day with these Questions.....lol
Take care and I will hear from you soon!In Christ's Love,